The last year has seen a lot of changes in my life, but it didn’t see one of the most important ones, one that I’m just now beginning to understand. Many authors and poets have said it, but the bottom line is it’s not about the destination but the journey. Sure you have to know where you’re going, there has to be a destination and that destination should be a better place. I’ve got plenty of goals in my life but over the last year I’ve spent a lot of time focusing on those goals and losing sight of the journey. The one place I’ve been pretty good about the journey is my daughters, but even there I need work.
I have a lot of plans for the future, a lot of goals and a lot of things I’m not willing to compromise on. The problem is I’ve gotten too focused on those things and the days and weeks are passing me by. Like I said, I manage to enjoy some of my time with the girls, but most of the time I’m just too focused on where I’m going not where I am. It sounds like a simple enough fix I mean just stop worrying so much about the future and worry about now. The thing is it’s never so easy. I like to think I’m making progress, but there are times when I get hung up not on the moment but on some future moment.
I know the life I want, I know the life I’m heading towards and I can see it very clearly. Sometimes it’s hard not to just try to rush headlong into it. Sometimes I just lose myself in that drive to get there and don’t notice the things going on around me. This is one of the big lessons I should have learned after my marriage but it took me a year to figure it out. I should be truly enjoying my time with Joy instead of worrying about how long it will be before I see her again. I should be enjoying my evenings with the girls and not worrying about their next weekend with their mom. I need to have fun and not worry about the next time I get to have fun. I owe apologies to Joy and the girls for not enjoying the journey as much as I should, for letting the worry get in the way of the moment and for being a bit of a basket case from time to time.
The good news is I’m moving forward and I know more about what I’m doing wrong, as long as I remember it the next to my brain starts to go off the tracks I’ll be good.
“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.”
Don Williams, Jr.
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”